A resource for women like me

When life came crashing down around me for the second time in my marriage, I was in need of different resources. Separation has been the right choice for me, and at this point I don’t see a path that will bring my husband and I back together. Most sex addiction support groups, blogs, books, etc. that I have found center around partners who are each striving to make their marriage work.

But what about when that is not possible? What help is there out there for those of us whose spouses have chosen their addiction over us so completely, that the only safe choice is to walk away from the relationship?

I don’t have any of the answers, but I hope to create a small corner of the internet where women can feel not alone in their choice to separate or divorce their sex addicted spouse. In all things, I hope the Lord guides your choices and comforts your heart. I feel grateful for a Heavenly Father who has made known to me that He will support me through whatever choice I make. I know He will take care of the rest.

3 thoughts on “A resource for women like me”

  1. I respect and support your decision to separate from a man who has chosen his addiction over God, his marriage, his wife and himself. I am sure that was an incredibly difficult and heart wrenching decision to make. Although my husband chose to battle his addiction and our marriage is surviving and thriving, my recovery support group is split pretty evenly between three groups. Those like me where both partners are in recovery, women staying in a very unhealthy marriage with a partner refusing to recover and thus prioritizing the marriage over their own health and safety, and those who have separated and/or divorced their partner. It is this middle group that is floundering the most. It is sad (if that word is even strong enough) when a marriage ends, but sometimes it just has to.

    So, although the outcome in my marriage is different than yours, I would still like to offer you my support in the decision that I know you did not make lightly, and walk your journey with you. Healing is for all of us. The journey will look different, but it is really about how God takes a betrayed broken women in His arms and beautifully restores her. That part of our story will be the same. Love and blessings.

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    1. Cynthia, thank you so much for taking the time to share your love and support. I appreciate your perspective that healing is for all of us. Only God can know what that looks like for each of us. Thanks for stumbling upon this site and leaving your kind words.

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  2. Hey Clarissa, I agree with Cynthia and I know the choice to leave was a painful one to make.

    Yes, there is a big empty void in this area of support. I applaud you for being willing to be that voice. That takes strength and courage.

    Thanks for following my blog too šŸ™‚

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